Traipsing through transition

Transition –“  Mid
16th century from French, or from Latin transitio(n-), from transire ‘go
across’.” Oxford English Dictionary

It’s fair to say I have entered a period of transition . I
have found myself waiting for an exact moment where I feel I have entered this period,
but truth be told I’m already in the depths of it. Not a day goes by where a
peer doesn’t ask me how I’m feeling about the change or my current state of
emotions. I’m never quite sure what the right answer is. It’s almost like I
have tried to instil a particular emotion upon myself. I try to imagine the
last day of my work here in Bangkok and I’m waiting for the tidal wave of tears
to come but if I’m honest none appear. There are days where the reality of the
situation doesn’t sink In. There are other days when my soul is so on fire for
the next season that I can’t wait for what’s to come.

Today is a day where I find myself being irritated at the slightest
thing. I get frustrated at the smallest hint of someone patronising me. This
morning I spilt a ton of coffee over myself and I spoke to myself like you
wouldn’t speak to your worst enemy. I will profess to taking myself to the toilet,
so I could be alone for 5 minutes resulting in giving myself a pep talk to pull
myself together. Ever get those days where you can’t quite put your finger on
what specifically is bothering you? Perhaps this all falls under the emotional
umbrella of “Transition “

In a matter of days, my work here at Nightlight will be done
and I shall be heading up to Chiang Mai for a Soul Care retreat. 5 days to
spend working through the baggage of the past 2.5 years . I think at times it’s
been so easy to keep my head down and get the work done. To pour out to those
who I so desperately want to love. To walk into the brothels and ignore the
stares of prying eyes. To work with those who have known trauma beyond others
imagination and to admit that I am not enough to heal the pain that runs
through the veins of those around me. I am merely a broken human who chooses to
show up every day and to give myself as a vessel knowing that I cannot rescue,
and I cannot save.

Its finally time for me to take these past few years and make
some kind of sense of them. I need to put the striving aside and listen out for
those words my heavenly father wants to whisper to me “ well done good and
faithful servant”  (Matthew 25:21) The
painful thing to admit as that sometimes my heart is scared. Scared to sit in
the quiet space and here a narrative that tells me that I did not do enough. I
could have worked harder. I could have loved more. That voice has constantly
hounded me as I have tried to do the work I felt called to do. My soul’s desire
for this week of retreat is to shun that voice and to hear the words of my Abba
father giving me the permission to lay it all down and to rest.

Rest can be scary because it allows us that space to sit with
our emotions. Still to this day, it is a daily struggle for me give myself
permission to enter into that space. To let the tears come and to allow myself
to be loved. Having battled with a destructive eating disorder, I remember days
of sitting in the quiet and letting lies wash over me, telling me that I was
not enough, that I need to restrict more, to do more, to be more in order to
receive that validation. It was in the silence that the burning temptation to
binge would come. Needless to say, those fears still arise from time to time
making it  difficult to want to be alone.

I know my God has claimed the victory over the past and he wishes for me to push deep into him before he opens the gate for my next season.

Saying goodbye to those around me was never going to be easy.
I am blessed to have made some beautiful friendships in an array of different
arenas. My friends in my gym who share a passion to lift heavy things above our
heads and climb up ropes in the name of fun. The international and Thai women I
have had the absolute joy of watching grow like flowers in the spring. Every
day my heart bursts with excitement as I see new skills being learnt and old
lies cut clean from their lives. I couldn’t be any prouder of the strength and resilience
these women show on a daily basis. Leaving a church that has allowed me to be
my most vulnerable self and loved me more than I ever deserve. A church full of
people who passionately love the Lord and refuse to be put in a box for their
gifts to die. I will forever be grateful to my “church of the misfits” for
never apologising for being its true self. Lastly the friends that have a
special place in my heart both in and outside of work.  The ones who let me in to their stories, who
trusted me enough to let me see the broken parts of them as well as walking
with me on my own journey. A journey that has been equal parts painful and
joyful. To every person that has graced me with their presence. You have pieces
of my heart that are forever yours.

It’s been quite the couple of months as I prepare for what’s
ahead and focusing on gaining closure on the present season. I have found
myself going into meetings with a feeling of fear. It really is true what they
say about “imposter syndrome” I sometimes catch myself playing the leader and
wonder what the heck I think I’m doing. As these meetings progress, my soul alights,
and I feel on fire for the topics of discussion. As I continue to walk into the
places that God has called me I can’t help but feel that childlike excitement.
It’s a daily battle to keep that passion bright. It can be just as easy to
allow the fear to cripple me. To crawl back into bed and bask in what Brene
Brown labels a “Vulnerability hangover” I have to give myself permission
to  feel the fear and do it anyway. Its
ok to be scared but we cannot give fear the authority in the high places we are
stepping to.

When I rewind my thoughts back to the girl who boarded a
plane at London Heathrow 2.5 years ago, 
Im astounded by the change. I was insecure in the person that stood on
the cusp of something beautiful.  I knew
God had planted a seed in me that was waiting to burst forth and yet I was so
weighed down with pain and lack of knowledge of who God was calling me to be .

There is a tendency to put leaders on pedestals. I spent my
life admiring those who were above me and what I’ve come to realise is that when
God calls you into a position of leadership he doesn’t take away your
weaknesses. He uses you in spite of them. Just like Paul with his thorn in the
flesh, I think when we admit we are broken, it’s then that the leadership truly
begins.

“It takes humility to name our narcissism, and we’re too married
to our image to come clean about how messed up we are. This focus on self
strangles authentic confession.

When we at last admit our flaws and failure, we gain a stronger
personal center and greater peace.” Leading with a Limp- Dan B Allender

We
are far from perfect but that should not stop us from walking into to those
places that we know we are called to. We keep on keeping on and agree to love
those who we chose to lead, no matter the cost.

I pray that many of you would chose to come on this journey with me because I cannot do it by myself. I need those I love to surround me. To fight for me in prayer and to ask me the difficult questions. I want to walk into this season with those that have the desire to set the world on fire and to stumble along with their mistakes and baggage. Together I know that we can create something truly special

As I transition out of Bangkok, my heart is full that I have strong women like these two ready to meet me up in Chiang Mai ❤